Maintaining Wellbeing at University…

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Bonjour!

So taking care of your mental health may not be on the top of your list of priorities at university. However, having recently graduated, looking back, I wish I had known when I started uni that my own mental health should have come before anything else.

At the start of my final year at university, I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder, having frequent panic attacks which affected every aspect of my life. I found that I was missing lectures regularly due to the fact that I just didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning. Throughout university I always felt as if I wasn’t good enough and that I was the worst performing on my course, actually I always felt this way at school too. But skipping lectures made me panic even more about this in the long-term. I won’t try and tell current students how to be mindful and offer advice on how to be the least-stressed and happiest student that ever lived, because I was never that. However, I will tell you what worked for me and how I managed to get from duvet-cocooning on Monday’s to my graduation day.

  1. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Your academic ability can only stretch so far, just like your physical and your mental abilities. If you feel like your workload is getting too much and you’re on the verge, then stop. Take a moment to focus on what is important and what you need to do to make it right. If you don’t understand a topic, work through it slowly, get help or just leave it! It’s not the end of the world.
  2. If you feel like you need to take time off to unwind, do it. Preferably do this when you haven’t got lectures to attend, but studying and writing 24/7 is not the way to properly take care of your mental health. You need time to reflect and relax, and don’t feel guilty about it!
  3. It was important to me to have another aspect of my life that wasn’t uni. I worked full time as a secondary school teaching assistant whilst at university. At times it definitely want easy but it gave me an escape and another reason to get up in the morning. When I was at work (I love my job so that helps) I was able to forget about the mountains of coursework I had to complete at home and focus on a whole other side to myself.
  4. Sleep! Sleep is one of the most important thing you can get when at university. Set up a sleep schedule, for example, going to bed at 11pm and waking up at 7am. NOT grabbing two hours at 3am!
  5. Organisation is SO important. I discovered in my first year that a wall planner is a life saver! Write down all of your presentation dates, when things are due and lectures. Having a diary or planner (and things written in it) to refer to means that you’ll never miss any imporatant dates and nothing will come as a shock. Also, on the topic of organisation, packing your bag he might before is, granted, a bit secondary school, but you’ll be glad of the extra ten minutes in bed in the morning. And you won’t be rushing out the house, shoving who-knows what in your rucksack.

Really, to me, the most important thing to make sure you’re doing whilst at uni is to take care of your mental health. If you can do that properly, then everything else can fall into place. Taking time out and being aware of how you’re feeling is super important. I think awareness is key to keeping happy and healthy. Actually stopping, reflecting and asking yourself ‘how do I feel today? What is my frame of mind?’ And then being aware of days when you’re feeling particularly delicate or on-edge and addressing it.

There’s nothing to be ashamed of with regards to feeling low or stressed out or just plain frazzled. The stigma that comes with mental health is disappearing and speaking out and making, not only yourself, but people who care about you aware of your mind-set will only help to put you on the right path. Hopefully these simple little tips will help to maintain or improve wellbeing during arguably the hardest, but best, years of your life.

Emily

Xoxo

Graduation And How I Got There!

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When I was in school, I was always the ‘middle of the road’ student. I wasn’t particularly clever or not, but looking back, I doubted myself so much. Actually, I was in top sets for most of my classes, I wasn’t getting A*’s but I was getting B’s. My problem was, my friends were all so clever and they were getting the top grades. I found myself clinging onto them and relying on them to tell me when our next test was, the answers to the homework and how to plan an essay. This only got me so far and by sixth form they’d become pretty fed up of me. My grades were falling from B’s to D’s in A Level and I gave up completely on the idea of university while my friends were still maintaining their straight A’s. My tutor and some of my friends were telling me to apply for uni, but I was just so convinced I wasn’t good enough. Okay, I thought, I might be able to get in, but I would no way be able to pass any of the work. 

Looking back, I wish I could tell myself how much better I was than I thought. I really underestimated myself and there is no way I ever imagined I would be standing up on stage one day being handed a university diploma with an upper second class honours degree in Creative Writing with English Literature.

Although I continued with my old habits in the first year; relying on friends to get me through. It wasn’t until I passed first year with a similar grade to my friends that I realised I could do it myself. Okay, so maybe I only just scraped a 2:1, but so what? who cares? The fact is I did it and 15 year old GCSE-fretting me cannot believe it.

The graduation ceremony was amazing. My parents cried, my grandparents came too, and my sister, and I was the first Hull to ever go to university and get a degree. I am so proud of what I’ve achieved in my time at university, as well as my friend too. I have made the best, life-long friends at uni who I know will always be there for me. If you can go through that together, you can definitely get through anything together, is what I say!

University was no easy feat for me. I had to work full time as a Teaching Assistant in order to fund my study, as well as attend lectures and undertake the course full time. Balancing a potential career and high level education took its toll and in early 2017 I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and panic attacks. My anxiety has really changed who I am as a person. Whilst I used to be travelling all over the country to see bands and camp out to meet them and go on day trips to London, I don’t do any of that anymore. Panic attacks have stopped me from doing the things I absolutely love and once considered a hobby. Whereas now I feel that all I do is go to work, sleep and repeat, I hope that one day I will be able to overcome this anxiety in the same way I overcame my self-doubt about university.

So really, what I’m saying is, if you ever feel like you can’t do something, just give it a try. And then, when you manage to do it you’ll look back on yourself and regret doubting yourself so much…

I hope you’ve enjoyed this post as much as I’ve enjoyed writing it.

Emily

xoxo

p.s. I’ll leave you with some pics from my grad!

How To Save Your Dirty White Converse! A Life Hack. 

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Bonjour!

So I’ve recently discovered a thing and it’s amAZING. I have a pair of white converse boots, and a pair of white shoes too (I haven’t done this to my shoes… yet!). But they get soooo dirty and £45 is a lot to be paying out every six months for a new pair!

If you have a similar problem, then I hope this blog post will save your actual life (like it saved mine… well, my converse’s anyway). 

Here’s what my shoes looked like before…


They seemed to be covered in black marks and, I don’t know if you do this too, I generally put my shoes on after doing my make-up so they seem to have orange marks on them… oops. 

Shall we start? 

  • So what you need to do first is rinse the shoes and get them slightly damp. I just ran them under the tap. 
  • Then, mix up a solution of detergent (any will do) and bicarbonate of soda at a ratio of 1.5:1. In other words, half as much detergent as baking soda. 
  • Get a tooth brush or scrubbing brush and start scrubbing! Make sure you get all of the shoe including the rubber parts. 
  • After this, just rinse the shoes under the tap to get the grains of soda off. 
  • Then just throw them into the washing machine!
  • Annnnnd you’re done! Leave them to dry and viola!


Let me know if you give this a go. You’re welcome in advance! 😉 

Emily

Xoxo

Blogtember Day #20- A-Z of Beauty Tips!

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Bonjour!

Here’s your alphabet in beauty form….

A is for Aroma– Smelling Good is super important. Whether it’s a perfume or a body mist, its a must. 

B is for Beauty Blender– How else do people blend their foundation? Like, a brush, really?



C is for Concealer– I would die without concealer. I would literally be dead. The bags under my eyes are enough. 

D is for DON’T BE AFRAID– Yellow trousers? Go for it. Massive tassel earrings? Why not?!



E is for Eyes– Whether it’s eye shadow or the ever-tricky cat-eye flick, no one can live with a naked eye. The most important part of the face in my opinion. (E is also for eyebrows, which are just as important and the darker the better tbh…)

F is for Faves– Just because a product isn’t top of the range, doesn’t mean it can’t be your fave for regular use. We all have our little go-tos and it doesn’t matter if they’re falling apart or disgustingly dirty, right? They’re our faves. 

G is for Glitter– Obvs! Whether it’s on the eyes, the lips, shimmer highlights, anything!! I love glittery nails, personally. 

H is for Highlight– You know how much I love a highlight. Can you ever have too much on? I think not. 



I is for Illusion– We’re on a theme here. Contour is the best illusion since magicians began cutting people in half. 

J is for Jackets– With winter approaching, a jacket is an essential and one of my fave items of clothing. I’m so excited to get mine back! Look at this beaut from Zara…



K is for Killer Boots– On the theme of winter, boots are a must and I literally live in them all winter long. Ankle boots, fluffy long boots, any kind of boot!!

L is for Lips– I’m obsessed with lip crayons at the moment and matte lips. 

M is for Matte- matte powder has been a life-save through the sweaty summer, but matte nails and lips are a must for autumn/winter. 



N is for Nails– £20 a fortnight for shellac nails? Oh okay then….

O is for Online– I’ve recently found so many beauty bargains online. Examples are a £52 Too Faced palette on eBay for £15 and the discovery of Cult Beauty has saved me a small fortune (Morphe 30 colour palette for £23!)

P is for Primer– If you’re like me, you’re very lazy with primer, but I have to admit, I’ve been using it a lot more lately and it really does mean my make up lasts longer throughout the day. If you’ve never tried it, give it a so and compare. 



Q is for Quick Fixes- Again, if you’re anything like me, you’ll need to take make-up to work (after crying a lot). However, taking you’re entire make-up kit is a bit extreme. I normally take just concealer and a sponge to cover the patches and any spots that may appear throughout the day. 

R is for Repairing Shampoos– I literally live by these. My hair would probably have all fallen out by now, or look like a crow’s nest. 



S is for Sleep– A good night’s sleep is the most important beauty tip I can give. Beauty sleep is no myth, people. 

T is for Time Out– Sometimes it’s important to let your face and skin rest. Give yourself a day or two off per week or fortnight to let your skin breathe without make up. 

U is for Utilise!- Try and make it last, it’s not cheap, y’know!

V is for Vegetables– Okay, not just veg, but a healthy diet in general. 

W is for Water– As well as a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water is great for skin. I personally drink gallons in a day so have very good skin as a consequence. 

X is for Exfoliate– Not quite an X, but really? My fave exfoliater is the Soap and Glory Scrub of your Life, featured in my last post (Bath Time Pampering). 



Y is for You– Nothing is more important than you time. Time off from work and family and responsibilities to relax. 

Z is for Zen- Quiet and sleep and relaxation with your fave products is the most important beauty tip I can give you. 

Emily

Xoxo

Blogtember Day #15- My Favourite Bloggers and Vloggers

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Bonjour! 

So it’s day 15 of Blogtember, and I thought I’d share with you my blogging and vlogging inspo’s and my fave people to watch and engage with online. If you haven’t heard of these people, go and check them out. GO NOW!!

 

1. Zoe Sugg. (Zoella).

I mean, everybody’s heard of Zoella, right? She is possibly one of the most famous YouTubers out there, but her blog is frikkin amazing too. I think I am one of the few Zoe fans who got into her blog before I started watching her YT videos. I think she is so inspirational, especially to other women who are suffering from anxiety (me), but she’s also just super-fun to watch. I love to see what she’s wearing, her make-up looks, and her interior decorating is the shizz. But generally, I love to see what she’s just getting up to on a daily basis. Everything she does seems so fun and I just want to be her friend tbh.

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Zoe:

YouTube: Zoella     Blog: http://www.zoella.co.uk     Twitter: @Zoella      Photo from: http://www.zoella.zo.uk

 


 

2. Poppy Deyes.

On the Sugg/Deyes Family theme, I am absolutely obsessed with Poppy Deyes’ blog. She’s my blog inspo fo’ sho’ (sorry). I love her minimalist designs and posts, and her love of food is shared (by me). Her site seems so cool, even though her posts are very minimalist, I love to see her outfits, what she’s eating, where she’s travelling and keeping up to date with her life in general. Also, her insta stories are always worth a tap.

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Poppy:

Blog: http://www.poppydeyes.com – Instagram: poppydeyes – Photo from: http://www.poppydeyes.com

 


 

3. Mark Ferris.

I found Mark’s YouTube channel through (you guessed it) Zoe… Her vlogs with Mark were hilarious and their friendship and laughter is so infectious. I checked out his channel and immediately hit subscribe. I love his ‘sit down and talk’ videos which are, more often than not, discussing serious topics like sexuality, mental health and bullying, but somehow, he makes it lighthearted and enjoyable to watch. He’s just such a lovely person, and this comes across in his videos- and i don’t even know him! Just love ‘im.

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Mark:

YouTube: Mark Ferris – Instagram: markyyferris – Photo from: instagram/markyyferris

 


 

4. Emma Millard. (It’s Em Channel)

I first discovered Emma when I was searching for videos on YouTube of a hotel I was going to stay at in Kos. I wanted to see what the hotel was like, and I came across a vlog of someone’s entire holiday at that hotel. It was Emma’s vlog, and I absolutely loved it. Honestly, it’s still my fave vlog of her’s and I must’ve watched it about twenty times, because now it reminds me of my holiday! Emma blogs/vlogs about beauty, fashion and general life and I absolutely love everything she posts. She’s beautiful and lovely and it really comes across in her vlogs and blog posts. They just make me feel so cosy when I’ve had a bit of a crappy day.

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Emma:

YouTube: Its Em Channel – Blog: http://www.itsemchannel.blogspot.co.uk – Instagram: itsemchannel – Photo from: instagram/itsemchannel

 


 

5. Sofia Gall. (So Fia)

Sophia first caught my attention when I was searching for ‘around the world travel’ vlogs. She is an amazing YouTuber and ‘cancer fighting genius’, in her own words. Sophia is truly inspirational and gorgeous. Her vlogs are so easy-going and relaxed and I mostly love seeing her do her make-up, as she does it so well and always end up looking stunning. Her around-the-world trip was so enjoyable to watch and she totally deserves everything good that comes her way. Not only is she incredible, she’s also a super-talented YouTuber who has really great beauty and lifestyle content, whilst also appreciating every single viewer and subscriber. She’s just a joy and I love her lots.

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Sofia:

YouTube: So Fia – Instagram: sophia.gall – Photo from: Instagram/sophia.gall


 

Hope you enjoyed reading about my fave bloggers and vloggers… These are the people that make me happy when I’m sad and I just love them lots. I would love to hear about your favourites and, if you want to, go and check out mine! 🙂

Love!

Emily

xoxo

Q&A: Get to Know Me Tag…

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Bonjour!

Thank you so much for all of your Q&A questions! I absolutely love doing these. Let’s get straight into it, shall we?


What are your favourite high street shops?

As you can see from most of my hauls and OOTDs, I absolutely love Primark and, genuinely, don’t know what I ever did before it (does anyone?!). Honestly, if I’m looking for anything I will always check Primark first. I do also love New Look and H&M and I’m also a sucker for Zara if I’m looking at spending a lil bit more…


Do you remember your first make-up item?

Yes! I went into Tammy Girl (REMEMBER THAT?!) one day and they were selling a roll-on clear lip-gloss with floating silver heart confetti in it. I remember absolutely plastering it on and I can still remember the smell… amazing.


Who would you say is your number 1 fashion inspiration?

I try, and fail, to follow more of an ‘indie/alternative’ fashion style, so I love people like Alexa Chung and Suki Waterhouse (I WISH, RIGHT!?). But honestly, I love Zoe Sugg’s (Zoella’s) style and tend to buy a lot of what she wears. Not only do I love her style, but I kind of know what she wears will suit me too as we have a similar body shape. Not to mention that she shops on the high street, so more often than not you can buy her EXACT outfit- PERF!


Celebrity crush?

Harry Styles. Is that even a question?

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What is the one thing your readers would be surprised to hear?

I’m only 22 but have worked for nearly 5 years as a Teaching Assistant in a secondary school, and I love it! I’m an aspiring Student Welfare Officer as I’d love to help teens get through the tough school years…


Where is your favourite place to be?

I have two… My happy place is a place called Fingle Bridge, which is a National Trust forest on Dartmoor. I just adore it. It’s so beautiful and inspires me when writing so much. And the second is home, in my bed, obvs.


Do you have any pets?

I have a LOVELY lil black cat called Roxy. We got her when I was 12 and although she’s a dribbly old lady, I love her with all my mushy (crazy cat lady) heart.

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What is your favourite song at the moment?

I’m a massive music fan and love everything from 1D to Joy Division. My all time fave band is The Killers and they’ve just released a new song called ‘Run for Cover‘, so obvs gotta say that 😉FullSizeRender (12)


Eyeliner in pencil, gel or liquid?

I mean, who uses gel??? I use liquid for the to